Who knew?

Do you ever feel damned if you do and damned if you don't? Like no matter what, there is no right choice and if you say choose the lesser of 2 evils, which is lesser? Maybe, afraid to do what you want because doing what you want might result in what you don't want. A worse situation than what you have now. Wow. That is what I am going through about several things. Who knew growing up was so hard? Any advice?